tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24668132753175648442012-02-10T07:11:39.034-05:00I REFUSE TO BE INVISIBLE. Im NOT straight & Im NOT gay. IM fully out as a BI MAN. Im married to a woman and have a male partner. I created this Blog because there are so many men living in depression, sadness, guilt & shame. We host a Beer Group in Toronto (the Bi Married Mafia) for Bi men to get together socially over a beer. We laugh, we talk, we share experiences. This is my story of being a Bi man & trying to live my life honestly & with integrity.Bi_Gentlemanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17505907985894969128noreply@blogger.comBlogger1091100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2466813275317564844.post-37172663346288543932012-02-09T21:44:00.024-05:002012-02-09T21:44:00.630-05:00

So I’m helping a newly single gay buddy buy a condo. All kinds of criteria have to be met in order for it to be the “perfect purchase.” Silly me… I’m thinking criteria in terms of parking spots, pantry space, linen closets, and plug ins for razors in the bathroom. I quickly realize that his mind is off in a completely different direction! He is thinking stairs, flooring and access to a park all

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   GAY MAN  STRAIGHT MAN     I and a buddy from our Bi Beer Group recently took our families to Niagara Falls for the weekend! All of us lured there for a piece of fake tropics in the midst of a weenie shrinking Canadian cold snap. We had arranged a hotel with the attached indoor waterslide park, with plastic palm trees, a sandbox and a wave pool for all the kids!!! Ah indoor

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Paris was AWESOME!! I had soooo much fun! I enjoyed the moments. Enjoyed the sights, the smells, the sounds, the food, the people. I met so many wonderful new people this weekend!!! I just did a whole bunch of “being me” and had so much fun and satisfaction doing it! I would jump into people’s photo’s as they were posing on the steps of the Sacré Coeur and they would stop.. be stunned and THEN

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Hopefully by the time you read this blog I will be in Paris. I decided I’m going to Paris for the weekend. As you read this I am spending the day lollygagging the Louvre. I will be having Dinner on the Champs Elyses. I will be drinking coffee in Monmartre and I will hit the Cabarets one of the evenings. And Ill be back by Monday. Yes I took off for Paris, by myself,  for the weekend! What about

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Confidence is a tool you can use in your everyday life to do all kinds of cool stuff, not least to stop fighting with yourself and freely plug into the things that matter to you. Here are 63 things YOU can do to be more confident. Pick a couple that jump out, give them a shot and let me know what happens. 1. Sign up for that evening class and enjoy it. 2. Ask your partner or best friend what

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I have been having this burning desire to pray lately! To Pray???? This is a pretty big statement for me. Beyond seemingly having NOTHING to do with a gay and bisexual publication, praying is one of those “church things” that I had fervently sliced out of my life more than 10 years ago. Still I find myself desperately needing to talk to someone about some pretty heavy matters and it just seems

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I had some pig of a bi guy contact me online the other night. Now having some guy contact me out of the blue and “want to suck my (or seemingly anyone’s) dick” is surely nothing newsworthy. But this guy actually offended my senses with his over the top advances, wouldn’t take, "no thank you" for an answer, and then proceeding to chase me down under another profile when I blocked his initial

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Visit msnbc.com for breaking news, world news, and news about the economy I’ve been out dating lately. Now for the record, I have had the privilege of meeting some pretty amazing, quality and handsome men (they wouldn’t get the first date if they weren’t.) All of these men have been primarily individuals that identify as gay. Having purposely decided to date more than a few people for the

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So, you met someone new and by all appearances, he is everything you're looking for in a man. He seems to be the embodiment of all the qualities that you like and have none of the ones that you don't. Best of all, it appears that he is not only equally interested in you, it seems he is actually gung-ho to start a relationship. As you are getting better acquainted, he mentions that he has recently

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I am sure that you have read me say that I have this deep understanding that “we will all be dead a very long time and ‘now’ is the only chance that we have to live.” I am sure that can sound very hedonistic to a person that does not know me. In reality it is a mantra that I say to myself to push me into living. I very much dislike what can seem like limitations on being true to myself as a

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As I may have mentioned I like to think that I have a creative streak running through me. This year I made my first attempt at "real writing" by completing my first novelette. Hey its only 100 pages but CRAP that was a piece of work for me. No one will likely read it. The person I actually wrote it for has since passed through my life. But hey I did it! And though I may be the only person that

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Dear God: So what the hell where you thinking when you created this whole Bisexual mess? You know REALLY, life would be so much easier if our pieces just fit into their proper holes!! I swear you created bisexual men because hockey rinks needed better track lighting? Or maybe because women need someone to bridge the gulf? Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus but Bisexuals are the Shuttle

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So my life has officially entered the realm of “alternative relationships.” Gosh I don’t know how we really ended up here. Frankly I and my wife are “not the kind” that we would think of when one uses the term “alternative lifestyles.” I guess when I had thought of such I kinda think of some guy with his shirt opened to his belly button and a nympho wife who go to parties, drop their keys in a

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I have come to the conclusion that I am for better or for worse becoming a bit of a call on guy on the subject of bi/gay married men. By virtue of this blog, the beer group and about a gazillion emails sent my way... I’m even asking myself, “When’s the Book coming out?” This one I know... just when I think I have heard it all... I hear something new. I’ve spoken with men who are truly gay that

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Ever felt unappreciated? It’s a frustrating and empty feeling that often leaves one wanting to “move on” out of simple self respect. It’s amazing what one will stay with, when one is feeling appreciated and what one will leave when they are feeling “taken for granted.” Dealing with appreciation in a relationship starts by understanding a basic human dynamic. What gets your attention? Think

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This is the second posting where I would like to showcase some of the stories of men that have contacted me on this site, that have recently "come out" to their wives. These are all real stories of other bi/gay married men. If you would be interested in sharing your story.... email me at bi-gentleman@hotmail.ca I never realized that men could be sexually attractive until about 5 years ago. (I’

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For the next few weeks I would like to showcase some of the stories of men that have contacted me on this site, that have recently "come out" to their wives.   These are all real stories of other bi/gay married men.  If you would be interested in sharing your story.... email me at bi-gentleman@hotmail.ca I first questioned my orientation when I was in my early teens.  Prior to that, I don't

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Here in Canada there is an Evangelical call in TV program run by a large Evangelical organization that invites individuals to call in and express their opinions regarding the topic of the evening. In fairness to them, I have seen them try to give time to all opinions, but of course, true to their agenda, after they have disconnected their caller, the host responds with, “well the Bible says....

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From last week’s blog I was lambasted by emails from a gay man in the Bronx USA. Seems he found my blog by searching out “bi married” on Google. I will attach some of his emails below, but the gist of it was that “bi/gay married men are cheating scum” that deserve to be “castrated” and “stoned to death.” He went on to tell me that he scours the internet looking for Bi married men searching for

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Four guys walk into a bar and start arguing over who's penis is longer. The bartender finally gets weary of hearing them arguing so he tells them that he has a way to solve this problem.  He tells them to whip their penises out and stick their penis' on the bar and he'd tell them once and for all who's was bigger. Just as they put them up there, a gay guy walks into the bar and yells "  Oh My

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Recently I went onto a website and responded to an faceless ad from a gentleman seeking a “bi married, honest, trustworthy guy who can relate” to his situation.   The gentleman responded back to me th next day, but with an email that said that he knows exactly who I am, “knows my family situation, what I am searching for” and that we share mutual friends in common... but chose to remain anonymous

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Last week I noted that I have spent time reading the blogs of so many others. Of note to me were the blogs and websites of women that were married to gay or bi men. So much hurt and so much pain. My blog is not meant to demean or denounce the very real pain felt by these women. Instead I wanted to see if I could answer some of the many questions that I read these women asking. No I can’t

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Been doing a lot of Blog reading lately. Blogs by gay/bi men that are married to women, were married to women and in some cases men that plan to marry women. I have also read a lot of Blogs by women that are or were married to gay or bisexual men. The worst of Blog postings though tend to be by gay men talking about gay/bi men that are married to women. GAWD these men can be so patronizing! I

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At our Bi Married Beer Night last week, came the discussion of how profitable it can be to just talk to someone about being Bi/Gay and married to a woman. But who to talk to? A therapist, clergy, a friend? And what can we expect from the conversation? Over the next few blogs, Im going to try and address what you can expect. Hell is going to be filled with the likes of Adolph Hitler,

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From our Bi Married Beer Night the other night, came the discussion of how profitable it can be to just talk to someone about being Bi/Gay and married to a woman.  But who to talk to?  A therapist, clergy, a friend?  And what can I expect from the situation?  Over a next few blogs, Im going to try and address what you can expect. So what actually happens in a therapy session? Do I have to lie

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This posting is a repeat from May 3rd 2010. I went to a meeting the other night for Gay Fathers. Its quite the unique group of men that are in various places of walking in their orientation… some married, some divorced, some out, some in the closet. There was one man that had the most interesting story to share. He was an 85 year old great grandfather that had been married for over 60 years.

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I recently wrote that I had completed my year long venture into blogging. No I'm not going to recind my last blog aptly named “My Last Blog.” Its just that I received so many emails asking me to not remove the blog.  Having thought about it... I decided to leave this Blog up for a while longer, but to at least give some sort of intro and self explanation for those that might choose to muck

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So it’s been one year now since I have started this blog. This year was sort of a personal social experiment for me. It was a year ago that I decided that I wanted to truly see if I could understand myself better, understand same sex culture better and make attempts at same sex dating. I wanted to see if there was any way that I as a bisexual married man that is fully out to his wife and world

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It should have been one of the happiest days in the life of anybody... the day you get engaged. Instead my friend was filled with deep, sad frustration, stress and overwhelming anxiety at the response of his evangelical Christian parents to the news that his partner of five years had asked my friend to marry him. Not that his parents blatantly rejected him. At least they were allowed to tell

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Been a heavy week in a number of ways. A good friend passed away suddenly leaving behind a wife and four young children. The funeral was... decidedly overwhelming if not tragically terrible. As such life events are inclined to do... it caused me to reflect and introspect on myself and my life. I removed an ad that I had placed on a dating website two weeks ago. Straight up... I was getting too

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I know I know you all sit with bated breath waiting for my latest article! LOL LOL!  Just promise to take a few minutes to laugh! Life is waaaay to short to not laugh!!! I went to the bar the other night, and was complaining about having a headache. My buddy Trev looks at me and says, "I've got the best cure for a headache...." “Whenever I have a headache I head home and I get my boyfriend to

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Last weekend I went onto one of the G-rated dating websites (Plenty of Fish) and updated an old profile ad that really hadn’t worked that well for me. I cut out all of the extra pedantic, frivolous info (the “I like martinis at sunset and champagne at sunrise!” stuff) and simply said this is what I want and this is what I don’t want. I added one photo (yes clothed) with a friendly smile and set

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Been following some of the postings lately and trying to respond to emails of a similar streak. Seems a lot of people have been asking questions about “whether bi/gay men ‘knew’” about their orientation and how could they “do this” to someone else? Hmmmm as per usual, this reminds me of a story once upon my life (do I sound like Rose on Golden Girls?) For many years I worked in the middle east

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Biphobia: The Gay Side. Reprinted from www.change.org April 06, 2010. So I'm going to come right out and admit it — I'm biphobic. It's not something to be proud of and it's something I know I need to work on, which is the reason I decided to write this piece. The more I read about bisexuality, the more I realize that I'm wrong and the more I come to terms with the reasons why I might feel the

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My son was 7 years old when he came home from school one day quite upset. He often would greet his best friend at school with a hug. Being in grade two this was not an inappropriate show of affection. But it seems there were some older boys on the school playground that took to calling them, “fags!” He was not quite sure what the term meant but all he knew was that it was used as a slam and he

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Continuing on in the theme of learning how to gay date. As my recent articles probably show... I like to make fun and light of the whole situation... still I am only learning how to do it and working hard to understand the whole process. As I have readily admitted before, I really don’t like dating.... Perhaps something I need to work at just learning to enjoy for what it is. Still something

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(SILLY HUMOUR! SILLY HUMOUR!!) AKA: Im Not Gay But My Boyfriend is! Jumping into the Gay dating world for most men coming out of the Straight World... even for the most seasoned professional home decor designer, can be a daunting task!!! I don’t care what anyone says.... vaginas just make it so much easier!!!! Females just inherently know what they want... husband, babies, security and a man

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“So tell me a bit about yourself?” begins my online banter. My computer beeps and I read his response, “5’11, MWM, BR/BL, 7” UC, VER/BTM,VGDLK,HWP, PNP & 420++++!” I let out a bit of a sigh for two reasons. First because I realize I have actually come to the place where I understand what all that algebra evoking net code actually means (5ft 11in tall, married white male, with brown hair, blue

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There has been a lot of banter of various blog sites about the challenges about how difficult it may seem to meet emotionally available people. As a voracious reader, and a pet student of human nature I have been thinking of late as to why this challenge seems to prevalent in the gay/bi dating scene. Why does it seem so difficult to meet the right person and perhaps even more confusing... why is

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On this past Wednesday we had our Bi Married Beer night (we jokingly call ourselves the Bi Married Mafia). Not the largest group we had out but probably the best conversation. We hit a back room in the pub, grabbed a beer and a bunch of lazy chairs and just yakked. As we were sitting there talking and laughing away, I found myself looking at these men that have become friends. Most of them, I

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Toronto -- No need to waste it, so a growing number of couples think. They have embraced an alternative to the married-couple-for-life scenario, a style of relationship called 'polyamory,' where primary partners branch out to other partners, but in committed relationships, too. Yes, it's complicated. No, lots of outsiders don't like it, or are at least very puzzled by the idea. But in an age

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(TO BE READ WITH A THICK AUSTRAILIAN ACCENT!) KRIKEY!!!! ‘Aving stepped inta the wiiiiild jungles of Gaay Men dating... it is impooortant to learn the culture of the wild naitives! Be veeeeeeeeeeeeeeery careful when tawking to these ones.... they are veeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeery daingerous animals... worse than a sex deprived croc!! This is for trained professionals ooooooonly and should not be

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Wherever this blog meets you today, I wanted to send Christmas well wishes of peace, good tidings and joy and all of the overly sentimental wishes that we all dream of at this time of year. Perhaps it may sound odd to mix god and gay/bi married men in the same conversation but as the season allows... I did want to take a few moments to share some thoughts on this. I know many of you come

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"Submission" 16x20 Oil & Gold leaf on Canvas 2010 ~ $1500 (SOLD) So at writing, Im squatting on the floor wrapping Christmas presents for various new friends, dates and people that have passed through my life this year. Obviously I’m not getting gifts for everyone that I met this year but surely for those that touched and affected my life. As I’m sitting here I find myself reflecting on the

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The following is a blog posted by my wife of 17 years.  I want to introduce her as the most beautiful woman in the world... beautiful inside and out.  She is my love, my anchor and the greatest blessing of my life.   Babe , I love you with all passion, all depth, all purpose and meaning and thank my stars above that you love me! I love you babe!!  My husband said the only thing he wanted for

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Jerry has been a good gay friend for a few years. We don’t talk often but when we do, it’s often deep, meaningful and satisfying. After a good conversation with Jerry you just want to smoke a cigarette. As per our usual conversations we tend to catch up on what’s been happening in the last month or so since we last chatted. So I filled him in on a whirlwind “romance” that I had weathered in the

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So in my latest instalment on Gay Dating. Man I really am not sure what to say of what I have learned and am learning. It would seem that like all conclusions, I am sure to offend someone in what I have to say... so I want to just try to delicately articulate my observations. I know people have challenged me when I say that Gay dating is so very different from dating women. But in all honesty,

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To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the

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Probably one of the most common themes that I find men talking about is dating and how difficult it can be for gay/bi men. Continuing on the theme of Gay/Bi Dating, here are a few tips that the "experts" throw our direction (who the hell is the expert????) Stick through the Dating Cycle Although it can be tempting to jump into a relationship with the first attractive man you meet... don’t.

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Continuing on the theme of “What I’m learning about Gay dating” I wanted to write this week about “Nice Guy Syndrome.” It’s funny that this idea of “nice guy” is such a scourge for so many men… that being nice somehow works against us in the battle and challenge of meeting another decent guy. It feels that being the nice guy will always somehow leave a deep scar within...  leave us feeling

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Back in the saddle again, I wanted to write a few articles about what I am learning about dating men. As I have mentioned before, for many years I lived in Africa... many times in the deep wilds of Africa where I may have been the only white man for hundreds of miles. I am often asked about the culture shock that I experienced living and working with people that were so different from me. In

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I’m one of those types that likes to understand people the way other people devour a new book. A few months back I found myself getting interested in Myers Briggs Personality Types. I have found it so helpful in both understanding myself and understanding others. I realize that personality types can be a little bit like trying to pigeon hole people according to their horoscopes. Still there

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Episode 9 Episode 10 Episode 11

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Episode 5 Episode 6 Episode 7 Episode 8

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Episode 1 Episode 2 Episode 3 Episode 4

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Now let’s face it, the realities of who I am does not exactly make my Gay. Com IM window bing like crazy! 45 year old married dad of 3 kids. I spend my days mowing the lawn, arranging screws into old spaghetti sauce jars in my garage and wishing away the varicose veins on my testicles. Favourite TV shows; Hanna Montana, WWF wrestling and Desperate Housewives (AKA what everyone else in my

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I’m 6’2. I fill up most of the front seat when I’m in your car and when I’m in the room you know I’m there. I certainly am not shy to speak, and as opinionated as all hell.  I often and regularly speak in front of crowds and it doesn’t bother me in the least.  I go the Blue Jays games and I’m THAT guy in the crowd that out screams the rest!  I am regularly chosen to be the leader, the chair, the

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This week’s blog is stepping out on the limb a bit. I have received emails recently asking exactly how to be married and still have another relationship with a man? I long ago learned in married life that it is irresponsible of me to assume that my wife would fulfill all of my needs, not only as a bi/gay married man but simply as a human. It is not that she lacks anything... she does not. It is

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OK I am NOT a drinker. Not that I don’t drink... just that a typical social event will find me nursing a beer (at most two) for the majority of the evening. Nothing against it... just not me. I got drunk once when I was 16 and the following hangover was so bad that I just NEVER wanted to be there again. EVER! So last night my wife and I get invited to a Halloween Party. Yeah we decide to go all

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Last blog we started talking about sex without strings.  Continuing on that theme, let's cut to the chase: all of us want sex. The problem is that we may not want the ‘strings’ of a full-on relationship; we just aren’t ready or available. And, as much as masturbation gives our bodies something to ‘snack on,’ we know what we really want is the Full-Meal Deal. The question of whether sex without

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I find that I often speak in generalizations and for those that I may offend as I do so... I fully realize that they are generalizations and understand that of course all conclusions cannot reflect everyone. Saying this, I was thinking about the whole idea of sex without emotional ties. It is probably fair to say that most men can separate sex from any kind of emotional attachment ... certainly

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I'm 42 and have been married for 13 years. We have two kids. I came out to my wife more than a year ago. In hindsight, I guess I have always been attracted to men, although I didn't really think much about it because I was attracted to women and found women sexually satisfying. I don't think I really gave much thought to the concept of bisexuality at all. Over the years, I have always had

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Just in case you didn’t realize... I’m a thinker. I mean a reeeeeeeeeeeeeeal thinker. I go for drives alone in the middle of the night to think. I write when I need to think. I talk to friends, when I need to think out loud. According to my Myer Briggs personality profile, I am a classic ENFP which means that I am more intuitive than most folk and pick up naturally on unspoken cues... often

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For the next few week's I will be sharing various "Guest Blogs" from gentlemen around the world that were willing to share "their story!" These stories all come from different backgrounds and experiences. As you will understand, each one of our stories are different. The people involved are unique and the circumstances varied. Still there is value in hearing each other's story. If you would be

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For the next few week's I will be sharing various "Guest Blogs" from gentlemen around the world that were willing to share "their story!" These stories all come from different backgrounds and experiences. As you will understand, each one of our stories are different. The people involved are unique and the circumstances varied. Still there is value in hearing each other's story. If you would be

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So this morning I woke up early. Got up shaved, showered, tried to make myself handsome and walked down to the corner coffee shop to grab my “extra large with milk.” Along the way I said “good morning to an old lady at the stop light and commented on how nice the weather was today. In line at the coffee shop I played peek-a-boo with a cute little two year old... much to the delight of a pack of

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For the next few week's I will be sharing various "Guest Blogs" from gentlemen around the world that were willing to share "their story!"  These stories all come from different backgrounds and experiences.  As you will understand, each one of our stories are different.  The people involved are unique and the circumstances varied.  Still there is value in hearing each other's story. If you would

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For the next few week's I will be sharing various "Guest Blogs" from gentlemen around the world that were willing to share "their story!" These stories all come from different backgrounds and experiences. As you will understand, each one of our stories are different. The people involved are unique and the circumstances varied. Still there is value in hearing each other's story. If you would be

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This year has been a great year for making some new wonderful friends. I have purposed to set out to meet some healthy gay and bi friends and I truly feel that I have succeeded. Due in part to our Bi Married Beer Nights, I have garnered a half a dozen new friends that have really taken a key place in my life. I am fortunate to have many wonderful, accepting straight friends that will always

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I enjoy visiting other blogs around the net and there is a collection of blogs that I try to read on a regular basis. One of those blogs is the Straight Spouse Network Blog. I confess that I have conflicting thoughts for what I have experienced from this group. On one side I am supportive of any group that helps people to deal with the complexities of the disclosure that your spouse is gay/bi. On

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I’m one of those people that stares intently at himself in the mirror, every time I get a haircut. Staring at this mug reflecting back at me I find myself wondering who that “old guy” in the mirror is? I have been noticing for the last few years that I am starting to look more and more like my dad?!?! This summer I turned 45 years old. I never thought of myself as “old” but there was something

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Third weekend in September... time for the annual neighbourhood “super bowl” between the Smith” Marauders” and the Jones’ “Bruisers!” Every year we gather on the local football field and take on those dreaded beatniks from down the street to either defend or win back the prized “Golden Cup” (a much coveted athletic jock strap, staple gunned to two pieces of 2x4 and spray painted gold!) Not many

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I have commented on this before... I am stunned by the amount of traffic and responses that I have been receiving for this web blog. What started off just before the summer as a project to simply help me to think and process has taken on a life of its own. As noted, I surely have learned that being married and gay/bi is not uncommon. There are literally millions of men in this situation. I

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Breakups suck! They are nasty, hurtful and downright heart breaking. So much left unfinished. So many bruised feelings. So many unfixable misunderstandings? So much anger and resentment. Yet time works on its own schedules and always affords us new vantage places to view our lives from. And looking back from the other side of the “hill” you realize that there are still things to be said.

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When a friend first sent me this video I admit that I simply laughed it off. Yet I wonder where such conclusions are drawn from? Of course any cursory visit through the internet will draw out just about the worst of any group or community. Still there is no denying that the gay/bi community does have a reputation for being sex obsessed. Sex! Lots of it! Lots of anonymous hook-ups, lots of

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I get asked all of the time... “What is it like being “out” to your wife and how does that work?” My wife and I were talking about this the other night (we talk about most things.) We both agreed that our situation is really difficult to explain to others and that taking what we call, “the honest route” is certainly not the easy route. I confess that whatever “it is” it is a lot of work to keep

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Hannibal Lecter: First principles, Clarice. Simplicity. Read Marcus Aurelius. Of each particular thing ask: what is it in itself? What is its nature? What does he do, this man you seek? Clarice Starling: He kills women... Hannibal Lecter: No. That is incidental. What is the first and principal thing he does? What needs does he serve by killing? Clarice Starling: Anger, um, social acceptance,

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So I did an infamous “guys weekend” this past weekend. For those that don’t know what a “guys weekend” is... well in a nutshell... a guys weekend is kind of a straight man’s “rite of passage” where one of the group is celebrating some milestone (this was a 40th birthday) and he invites all of his friends from a dozen different life stories to join him for the weekend. This is when 15 middle aged

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Part One Over the past few weeks and articles I discussed the topic of “Letting Your Spouse Know That You Are Not Straight.” I purposely named this topic in this manner as opposed to “letting your spouse know that you are Gay” Over the next months I would like to discuss further on the topic of bisexuality. Again I ask my readers to understand that I am NOT proclaiming an agenda that says, "You

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This post is taken and adapted from: wikihow.com Men who are considered to be bisexual are attracted to members of both sexes, but this doesn't mean that they feel the need to be with a man and a woman at the same time. Just like straight or gay people, the vast majority of bisexual men and women will want a monogamous relationship. When it comes to marriage, a bisexual may end up with a

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In an email to a person that I loved and cared for deeply, I uttered the words that I had long known, but never wanted to be found vocalizing. I called him a “lost soul.” What a horrible, horrible thing to evoke on someone. Yet it wasn’t flung in anger… it was resignation. It was a empathetic statement to him… and a measure of resigned understanding to myself. I was not the first to recognize

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Finally the results of our online Poll for bi/gay men married to a woman. In my initial posting we asked “whether you were normal?” Whether there actually is some measureable semblance of “normal” is to be debated. Whether these responses give us an idea of the normal gay/bi married men is also up for debate. Still we have just over 1280 bi/gay married men respond to the poll. Below are their

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This is the third instalment in a series that discusses “telling our wives that we are not straight.” Revealing (or not revealing) your orientation to anyone else, is fundamentally your decision and yours alone. I’m trying to steer as far away from moralisms on this matter as possible. Noting such, this topic is named “Why we WOULD CONSIDER...” instead of “why we SHOULD tell her?” I am hoping

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It is my intentions to continue on with the series on telling your wife that you are not straight... but I wanted to take a break in that series and share some of my most recent thoughts. This week I had a dear friend visit from Western Canada. Ruth has been my friend for 25 years... unfortunately we have lived in different parts of the world for most of it. When we lived in the same town 25

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This series of articles is about discussing the topic of “Letting Your Spouse Know That You Are Not Straight. This week we specifically address “Why We Haven’t Told Her.” I ask my readers to understand that I am NOT taking a moral stance on whether the reasons given below are or are not acceptable, legitimate or appropriate. We are simply trying to encourage “understanding ourselves.” As the

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Over the next few weeks and articles I intend to discuss the topic of “Letting Your Spouse Know That You Are Not Straight.” I purposely name this topic in this manner as opposed to “letting your spouse know that you are Gay or Bi.” I see these as completely separate topics... the first being general about yourself and implementing a measure of respect for a spouse and the second as more specific.

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NOTE: The above title was to used garner attention. As the perpetual "decent guy" I apologize to the cummunity ahead of time for even using such filth, if only to make a point. I’m trying to think and write rationally in responding to the various comments received to blogs posted regarding the topic of Bisexuality. I confess I am continually stunned by the responses of many in the gay community

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I remember sitting in a market in one of the deepest and remotest areas of South Sudan, Africa. The area was so remote that there were many there that had not seen a white man before. As I sat there watching this collection of raw humanity pass in front of me... I was struck by one item... their teeth. I remember noticing the teeth of these individuals that lived thousands and thousands of KMS

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I came across this a blog recently that was quite critical of the claims of being bisexual and married. In interacting with this gentleman you realize that he has good cause to be leery of Bi/Gay married men. Fundamentally today’s post asks... does bi really exist or is it merely an escape clause for married men living in denial and seeking their “cake and eat it too?” His Blog read in part:

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I’ve taken the time this year to look deeeeeeeeeep within me (“deeeeeeeeeeeep” has to be said with your chin on your chest and as low a voice as you can muster.) In the midst of my introspection and classic ENFP Personality Type, masochistic self punishment, I have had to be reminded by loved ones of one “FACT!”  They continually throw back at me... “I am VERY good at relationships. “ I am

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So you’ve wondered if you have met a decent guy online?  You may or may not be interested in hook-ups. One-offers may make your day or you’d rather meet someone with a bit more depth and perhaps have an actual (gasp) relationship of sorts. You go online and advertise for whatever it is that you seek. You place and ad on Craigslist (or where ever) and receive 30 emails in response. You can

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SO I BROKE MY ARM THIS WEEK!!!!  Thanks for your sympathy... I’m feeling the love!!! So I’m sitting in my office speaking with a client on the telephone. I lean back on the chair and WHAM the whole thing gives out and I SLAM to the floor! LOL I can hear the client on the phone, asking, “hello?? Hello!! Are you ok?? Is anyone there?? Hello??!!” I’m sure it must have sounded like a truck slammed

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He's an architect... a real one. Designs grand buildings and public spaces in the farthest reaches of North America. He’s smart ... his personal blog is filled with architectural submissions and design articles from all over the world. He’s young and very handsome... and gosh... he’s young and very handsome. Did I mention that he’s young and very handsome? He actually reads MY blog??!! He’s

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I have a personal opinion that the Gay/Bi world (whatever that is) is fraught with heartache, personal issues and sadness. People struggling to be who they are and at peace with themselves. In fairness I do conclude that this struggle is more relevant in those above 35 than those that are younger, simply because of today’s relaxed societal acceptance and the ease of coming out. Still many middle

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The Top 10 Best Breakup Lines For Gay Men 10 "Owwww... I banged my head! That really hurt! Hey... who are YOU?" 9 “Sorry, my doctor said I have to cut out all fat.” 8 "I've got this disease... it's called herpigonasyphalaids. Very contagious." 7 "You're too old for me.” But we're the same age? 6 “I can't love you because my mom won't approve." 5 "You're no longer the wealthy, gullible, and

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Last night I had the occasion to go to a Blue Jays game with a new buddy from out Bi Married Beer Night. We had a great time (and to boot the Blue Jays mopped up on the Minnesota Twins!) We watched the game, made some noise, talked deep between innings, and drank beer. After the game, we went to Nathan Philips Square with what seemed the rest of Toronto and talked late about life, marriage,

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I have had the wonderful occasion to meet many new people in the past months. And over no shortage of beers, coffees and late night chats, I have learned much about myself and other gay/bi men. While walking my own couple of years of attempted introspection, I have made a number of new friends... gay, bi and gay/bi married and the story I hear over and over is one of too much depression,

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How’s that for the weirdest statement of the day? So I’ve done the hard work. I’ve faced myself in the mirror and long ago came to peace with my orientation. I have come out to my wife and told her who I am. We had all of the hard talks, about separating and divorce but have chosen to stay together. I actually have permission from her to have another male relationship in my life... but I don’t

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Posted in Gay Husbands,Gay marriage,Infidelity,James McGreevey,Straight wives,Support for the other man,gay love,life by gayhusbands Power of fear is at the basis of all negative emotions and actions. It is why we lie, why we argue and have to be right all the time. It’s the reason behind some people’s needs to be in control. It is the reason why people steal and the list goes on and on.

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My flight was being served by an obviously gay flight attendant, who seemed to put everyone in a good mood as he served us food and drinks. As the plane prepared to descend, he came swishing down the aisle and told us "Captain Marvey has asked me to announce that he'll be landing the big scary plane shortly, so lovely people, if you could just put your trays up, that would be fabulous!." On

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